Adopting a child may not be the best move for your family.
Adopting a child and giving him a new life can be a wonderful thing, but only if you are ready. Not everyone is suitable for adoption, and since it is such as major decision, you should be sure it is the right choice. If you find yourself having doubts, there is a chance this isn't the right path for you at the moment.
Because It's a Trend
It's wrong to adopt a child simply because it's a trend, or "all the celebrities are doing it." That trend will disappear and you are still left with a little child who needs your constant love and attention. That child doesn't care if it's trendy or you're "cool" for doing it. He just wants your affection and needs your help. Adoption should be about the child, not your status symbol and how people view you.
You Need Affection
If you're seeking companionship, adoption is not the correct substitute. Needing affection is a selfish thing and not something to expect from a child. An adopted child is a child who needs to be taken care of, not vice versa. More than a biological child, an adopted child will need your love and attention. She needs to learn to trust you and, depending on her prior circumstances, may need even more attention to catch her up in learning, improve her health, and heal emotional wounds. Adoption has to be about the child first and foremost, not about what you will get out of it.
Biological Clock Is Ticking
With women having children well into their forties and sometimes even in their fifties, the phrase "my biological clock is ticking" doesn't apply as much as it did in the past. While there is a certain point at which it does become physically impossible to bear children, adopting because you're running out of time to bear your own children isn't a good reason. You should have a child or adopt a child when you are at a point in your life when you are ready to raise children. For some people, that's in their 20s; for others it's not until they are 50. Everyone has her own point of being "ready." Adoption at any age needs to occur only when the adults are ready to accept a child into their lives, and not about when a woman may be running out of time to bear her own biological children.
Tax Write-Off
If you're trying to qualify for a tax write-off by adopting a child, don't even bother. The amount you're able to write off for each child doesn't even begin to cover the cost of raising a child. From a financial standpoint it's a losing venture. The numbers don't make sense, so if this is your motivation for adoption, it's by far the wrong one.
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